Day 16: When You Miss Who You Used to Be – Mourning Past Versions of Yourself
Some days, you don’t miss anyone but yourself.
The version of you who smiled more easily. Who had energy. Who believed things would work out.
The past feels like a place you want to return to—not because it was perfect, but because you felt more like you.
💬 “Missing who you were is part of healing who you’re becoming.”
A Quiet Kind of Grief
I miss the girl who could laugh without thinking.
The one who didn’t overanalyze every choice. The one who wasn’t always tired.
Even though I’ve grown, I grieve her sometimes.
And that’s okay.
Healing is not just about getting better—it’s about letting go.
Letting go of old roles, old reactions, old versions of who we were.
Even though we’re becoming stronger, we’re allowed to miss who we used to be.
Becoming Without Abandoning
What I’ve learned is this: I’m not betraying the old me by growing.
I’m carrying her. I’m honoring what she survived.
While the world tells us to “move on,” I think it’s braver to say, “I still feel it, and I’m still healing.”
So when you miss who you used to be, pause.
Hold that younger self close.
Tell her thank you—for getting you here.
🌿 A Grounding Tip
Find an old photo of yourself. Sit with it for a moment.
Then whisper, “I’m proud of you. I’m still becoming because of you.”
✍️ Let’s Journal Together
Who was I before the world told me who to be?
What part of my past self still lives in me today?
What do I want to carry forward, and what do I want to release?
🕊 A Line to Remember
You don’t have to forget who you were to love who you’re becoming.
🔗 Internal Link:
👈 If you missed Day 15, read “The Pressure to Always Be Okay”